When you don’t feel good about yourself, it shows. One way that it manifests is through your ability to handle stressful situations. The lack of self-confidence may undermine your efforts before you even get started. Let’s look at how to overcome this by practicing self-confidence.
What Is Self-Confidence Anyway?
It’s important to make sure that everyone is on the same page. To that end, we like to define the concepts that are being discussed. Self-confidence refers to your sense of self – who you are and what you are capable of. It is essentially how you view yourself in the world around you. Those with low self-confidence, for example, may not believe that they have anything worthwhile to contribute to the world, their loved ones or anyone else.
Poor self-confidence may prevent you from living the life you always envisioned could be yours. Some of the drawbacks of a low self-image include:
* Lack of motivation – You don’t try for a promotion or a new project at work because you believe that you couldn’t handle it.
* Lack of assertiveness – Someone puts you down or disrespect you, but you take it without speaking up for yourself.
* The “poor me” syndrome – You view setbacks as personal attacks. If you were worth anything then you would be able to achieve all that you set out to do.
Stress and Self-Confidence
Well, those who are feeling stressed could be suffering from a lack of self-confidence, in part. Also, those who have a poor opinion of themselves may be prone to stress in the workplace and in their personal lives. One may set you up for the other.
Stress may show up in a number of ways:
* You don’t ask for help – Because you believe you will be vilified, you hesitate to get assistance when you need it.
* You take on too much – It’s all about improving your image but in the wrong way. To impress your boss you pile on the work even though you can’t handle it all.
* You don’t speak up when you need to – At home and at work, you allow yourself to be treated according to someone else’s standards so as not to “rock the boat.”
It doesn’t have to be this way. There are things that you can begin putting into practice right now to increase your self-confidence and decrease your stress levels.
* Set a schedule – If you have a lot to do, map it out first. At work, you can complete those projects in record time by breaking them down into manageable steps.
* Positive self-talk – When setbacks occur, visualize them as hurdles, like a runner. It may take some time but with practice you can see yourself overcoming those hurdles. Tell yourself that another approach is needed, but don’t give up.
* Celebrate achievements – As you complete each step towards your goals, celebrate. Praising yourself along the way strengthens your resolve to keep striving.
The lack of positive self-image can create stressful situations in your life.