Your self-beliefs are those things you believe to be undeniably true. You have met people that have a perspective on a situation which seems incredibly irrational and unbelievable. However, if that distorted reality is a powerful belief that person holds near and dear to his heart, it will be next to impossible to change his opinion on the subject or situation.
Self-belief also refers to how capable someone thinks he or she is. When you enjoy high levels of positive self-belief, you are confident and full of self-esteem. You are self-assured in just about any situation. You feel quite certain that you can achieve a successful set of results, even when tossed unprepared into just about any set of circumstances.
The other side of that coin is just as negatively powerful as positive self-belief.
Negative self-beliefs create a dark, dismal reality. You construct a negative perception of yourself, even though these beliefs are many times incorrect.
Look at what beliefs you have that cast a negative light on yourself and your abilities. What beliefs do you have that keep you from trying to become a better, more successful, more complete person? If you staunchly believe something that virtually guarantees you can’t reach some dream or desire that is very important to you, this is a negative self-belief.
Once identified, now all you have to do is replace that negative thought with a positive one. You will learn exactly how to do that in our next email.
How To Replace Negative Thoughts With Positive Ones
Have you had a tough time developing a new, positive habit? The problem may be in the way you are phrasing your inner self-talk. The conversations you have with yourself need to be framed in a positive manner. Negative talk creates negative behaviors. It eliminates the ability to do the things necessary to create the reality that you are looking for.
Negative thoughts and self-talk tell you that you can’t do something. They remind you that you have never accomplished a certain thing in the past, so why should you believe you can do so in the future? They hold you down and ensure that you never step outside of your comfort zone, which is where all major achievement is found.
This single bit of knowledge could explain why you have failed to achieve the weight loss, financial independence, dream relationship or career advancement that you have been looking for. The good news is that you can flip negative thoughts, and create positive words out of them. Here is an example of negative to positive changes of self-talk and self-belief.
Imagine that money is tight right now, and you have a real problem paying your bills. Your thought process may go something like this.
“Where am I going to come up with the money to pay my bills? They are about to shut off the lights, I have no money in savings, and I am continually broke.”
Flip that thought process. Turn the exact same situation into a positive thought process. This puts your subconscious to work looking for a solution to the problem. Instead of the above inner talk, try this.
“My financial situation is improving because I have drawn up a budget. I am continually looking for ways to cut down on unneeded expenses and to earn extra income, and my financial situation is looking up.”
How Negative Beliefs Hold You Back in Everyday Life
It has been proven that the way you decide to experience your daily life is crucial to creating the kinds of results you realize. Look at the following couple of situations, and how simply changing your perception of them drastically changes your life path.
My job is too stressful. I work a lot of hours, and that doesn’t leave enough time for me to take care of myself.
My job is too stressful. Since I work a lot of hours and time is at a premium, I am prioritizing time to take care of myself.
The situation has not changed at all. However, your interpretation of what you are going to do about that situation has changed powerfully. Here’s another example.
My friends are always putting me down. They make me feel like I don’t deserve to have anything good in my life.
My friends are always putting me down. Since they make me feel like I don’t deserve anything good in my life, I am searching out new people who are more like me.
In each of those situations, the first expression of perception was formed in a negative manner. Those are negative self-beliefs. Read those two negative statements again. Do you see how powerful they can be in holding you down and keeping you away from the reality you desire?
Now look at the second statement in each example. Nothing has changed. The situation is absolutely the same. However, since that individual decided to take action in a positive rather than negative manner, you get the feeling that good things are going to happen.
Don’t let negative self-talk keep you from realizing the reality of your dreams. You can view anything that happens in your life in the world around you as a negative situation, or an opportunity for incredible growth and success.
Avoiding Your Fears Is The Wrong Move For Positive Growth and Results
Fear can be crippling.
It can absolutely immobilze you. Unfaced and avoided, your fears can grow out of control and unchecked, until they seem impossible to even dream about dealing with. If you are afraid of bears, you may be able to live your whole life without having to deal with an encounter.
The problem arises when you have fearful self-beliefs that keep you from living a normal life. Here are a few examples of irrational fears that hold people back from enjoying full, rewarding lives.
I usually fail when I try new things, so I am not about to step outside my cozy area of comfort and safety.
I know my fear of (fill in the blank) is irrational. However, it still fills me with a sense of dread. Avoidance only makes sense.
My failures define me. I have failed at a lot of things, and it is smart to be fearful of trying to make changes in my life, since they never work out.
I am uncomfortable meeting new people. I fear they will make fun of me and ostracize me, so I prefer to be alone.
I am deathly afraid of giving a presentation at work. I just know I will fail miserably, and become the laughing stock of the company.
Fears like these, and others, never end up realizing such negative “what if” scenarios. The belief in the fear is more powerful than the fear itself.
Mental health experts agree that facing fears head-on is the only way to get control over them. Don’t do so overnight, however. Take baby steps. A fear of socializing can be overcome by first starting to greet a coworker you have never met before. This is a safe move, in a familiar setting.
Invite a good friend to ask one of his friends, someone you have never met, over to your house for dinner. Over time these small, seemingly insignificant moves will have you realizing your big, bad fear is not all that powerful after all.