Not choosing is a choice. When you have to decide on two or more choices or variables, and you pass on making a decision, you have made a choice. Wouldn’t it make sense instead to allow yourself to be in control of the decision, rather than someone else? If you don’t make a decision, in many cases the choice is passed on to someone else. Since it is always better for you to be in control of your destiny rather than another, not making a decision is a bad decision.
Indecision also causes low self-esteem.
You begin to resent yourself, saying things like, “I couldn’t even make that small decision. It wasn’t some big, life-changing choice presented to me, yet I still couldn’t decide.” This mindset can make decisions in the future even more difficult to make. Besides, it does no good. It is a false representation of what actually happened.
Whether you make a good choice, a bad choice or no choice, you have decided. This is just a decision. It is not the end of the world. If you decide not to choose, and that turns out being incredibly beneficial to your life, don’t tell yourself you did the right thing. You are simply playing the lottery, hoping against hope that not choosing would somehow get the universe to deliver the best possible scenario.
Studies on Decision-Makers Show That Indecisiveness Leads to Stress
Stress causes inflammation, inflammation promotes chronic diseases and health problems, so you are healthier and happier when you take decisive action. Don’t entrust your future to others. Take control of your life and make a conscious decision to be more decisive. You are the best person to make decisions for your life.
If you are concerned you don’t have all the information needed to make the smart decision, understand that analysis paralysis is a real thing. Waiting for more information can paralyze your decision-making process, the same as having too much information to sort through. If you are rationalizing a reason for delaying a choice, your justifications are putting off the inevitable.
Sometimes it helps to talk to yourself in the second person. Think about the most confident you have ever been. Imagine yourself confident, with high self-esteem and a great self-image. Envision others looking up to you and respecting you as a person, and as a decision maker. Then simply say, “What would you do?” You are asking your most decisive, courageous, confident self what the decision should be.
Do this enough and you will find yourself becoming more decisive and sure about the decisions you make. Are you going to make some poor decisions in your life? Sure you are. We all do. Humans are imperfect. We make mistakes. Knowing this should make the decision process easier, not more difficult.